Messaging well

Openers that work

Reference something real from their profile - a prompt answer, a shared interest, a photo caption. One specific observation plus one easy question.

"Your Didion take is hot and I respect it — what earned a second copy?"

Keeping threads alive

Answer, then extend. A reply that only answers leaves the ball dead; add a small question or detail back.

When to move on

Three thoughtful attempts with nothing reciprocal is signal, not failure. PsiMatch's pass reasons quietly improve future matching either way.